Unfortunately families have told us that sometimes their child is bullied. We are very proud of the families who shared their experiences with us to help other families face bullying.
Types of bullying to be aware of:
- Name calling or nasty comments – in person, by text or online.
- Exclusion from social groups – feeling ostracised is very distressing and may lead your child to try to adapt to what the group wants by over-compensating.
- Exploitative – taking advantage of your disability in some way i.e. exploiting your sensitivities, or your inability to recognise that you are being bullied, or perhaps your memory so that you cannot remember what happened and report it.
- Manipulative – trying to make you do things you do not want to do – such as take something from a shop.
- Conditional friendship – allowing you to be in their friendship group on condition you let them laugh at you for example, or use you in some way.
How to deal with bullying
Tips on dealing with bullying at school:
- All schools must have an Anti-Bullying Policy that complies with the Equality Act 2010.
- Talk regularly with your child about their day. Ask them about what activities they did and how they felt. Ensure your child feels confident about talking to someone if they feel bullied.
- Ask your child's teacher if they have noticed that your child seems unhappy and isolated and is being excluded from games in the playground or regularly not having a partner to work with in class.
- Report bullying to head of year and then to governors if persistent.
- Expect an action plan and further follow up checks to see if all is going well. Schools with trained peer supporters will provide help from peers.
- If incidents are persistent, keep a diary of what is happening and what action has been taken. How often is this happening? Who have you reported it to? What has been done?
Tips on dealing with bullying online:
- Set parental controls and filters.
- Teach your child ways to respond and get help if they experience any bullying online.
- Use report abuse buttons on websites if needed.
- If your child receives chainletters, threats or any nasty messages, tell them not to worry but to show them to you. Don’t reply, but save the message as evidence. Report them and block the sender.
- If child exploitation is involved, contact CEOP
Some forms of bullying are illegal and should be reported to the police. These include violence, assault, theft, repeated harassment or intimidation (e.g. name calling, threats and abusive phone calls, emails or text messages and hate crimes). If you suspect either you or your child are a victim of these types of bullying, report the incidents to the police as soon as possible.